Since it is impossible to control another person, your surroundings, or external circumstances, it is wise to put your energy into an area you can control-your mind, words, and intentions. Intentions rely upon the choices you make yourself, whereas expectations usually demand the actions of other people. One key distinction between intentions and expectations is the onus of responsibility. An expectation narrows the field of possibilities of the myriad ways the universe can delight you. And then you see how it plays out.Ī clear intention is a fundamental element in any flourishing endeavor. With this intention – and it’s a very physical thing, not just an idea or a wish – you enter the classroom. You wake up a mood in yourself that makes you feel sparkly and joyful. You are a teacher and you want to have a sense of lightness and community when working with your ‘difficult’ class.You then approach your boss with a request for higher pay. You do your work with the intention of it being of benefit to others, rather than for the credit it will bring you.While settling into your new home, you set the intention to be grateful for all the newfound space it will give you to work and play with your family.Now see what happens when you shift your expectations into intentions. You breathe more shallow, become a bit tense, and are on the lookout for the first sign of trouble. If you have this unconscious or conscious expectation, it may happen that you prepare already for an unpleasant hour. The students are noisy and don’t pay attention to what you’re saying. You are a teacher and the next class you are teaching is the ‘difficult’ one.You expected your boss to recognize your hard work with a raise, and then didn’t receive one, so you felt despondent in your future with the company.
You expected that moving to a bigger home would make you happier, but it didn’t, so you felt disheartened by the result of your move.
If you expect life to be “fair” or that everyone will always like you, for example, you should probably also expect to have to eat a big slice of humble pie at some point soon. Put another way, you expected one thing and got another. All you can do is focus your attention and awareness on what you’d like to bring into the situation for it to be a good experience.Ĭonsider this: anytime you feel discouraged at an outcome, it is because the reality of the situation didn’t align with your expectations. At the same time, you are aware that you are only one element in the situation and that you don’t know what will happen. It is a state, atmosphere, or wish for the situation and you align your thinking, feeling, and physical being to your intention. It is, however, something that you add to the situation in an enriching way.
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